Mentalism 101: How to Tell If Someone Is Lying to You
Firstly, I would like to thank all the mistrusting spouses that clicked this link the moment they saw it. But be warned. Even master mentalists are right about seventy percent of the time, so don't rush to conclusions whenever these signs pop up...
Although mentalism is based on science, sub-conscious cues should not be treated individually. A combination of two or more 'tells' warrant a red flag, but not a conclusion. So now that I've resolved all the legal issues on my end, let's get to it...
Picking up Subconscious Cues
Body language and facial expression can give you more insight than verbal explanation. After all, people can always lie about themselves; but faking reaction is a lot more difficult than that.
So how do you interpret these non-verbal cues? For starters, you need to become more observant, not only of others but of yourself. When you tell someone a blatant lie, does your posture change? Does your back stiffen or does your throat feel constricted? Do you make this face?...
For example, right handed people fiddle with their left hand (and\or look to the left) when they are under stress and vice versa. If a person only uses their lips to smile then it is not genuine; facial expressions in general use most of the facial muscles. If a person's body is inclined away from you then it is possible that they are hiding something. An audible exhale is a subconscious reaction to being caught...and so on.
Chances are, whatever your body is going through is similar to what other people might experience when they tell a lie. Experiment with yourself first and observe how other people react.
Picking Up Word Choices
If you heard someone say, "I won another award", what would it tell you about that person? Well, it turns out that by using the word 'another', that person is trying to communicate that they have more awards...so they are egotistical. Same thing with lying: word choices differ from the norm when a person is under stress.
For example, If someone says "THE car broke down" instead of "MY car broke down", it's a red flag. Subconciously, people do not generally want to associate themselves with a lie, so their statements become more impersonal. Also, not using constrictions (words like didn't, can't etc) and saying the whole thing (did not, cannot etc) is a bad sign ...
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Although mentalism is based on science, sub-conscious cues should not be treated individually. A combination of two or more 'tells' warrant a red flag, but not a conclusion. So now that I've resolved all the legal issues on my end, let's get to it...
Picking up Subconscious Cues
Body language and facial expression can give you more insight than verbal explanation. After all, people can always lie about themselves; but faking reaction is a lot more difficult than that.
So how do you interpret these non-verbal cues? For starters, you need to become more observant, not only of others but of yourself. When you tell someone a blatant lie, does your posture change? Does your back stiffen or does your throat feel constricted? Do you make this face?...
For example, right handed people fiddle with their left hand (and\or look to the left) when they are under stress and vice versa. If a person only uses their lips to smile then it is not genuine; facial expressions in general use most of the facial muscles. If a person's body is inclined away from you then it is possible that they are hiding something. An audible exhale is a subconscious reaction to being caught...and so on.
Chances are, whatever your body is going through is similar to what other people might experience when they tell a lie. Experiment with yourself first and observe how other people react.
Picking Up Word Choices
If you heard someone say, "I won another award", what would it tell you about that person? Well, it turns out that by using the word 'another', that person is trying to communicate that they have more awards...so they are egotistical. Same thing with lying: word choices differ from the norm when a person is under stress.
For example, If someone says "THE car broke down" instead of "MY car broke down", it's a red flag. Subconciously, people do not generally want to associate themselves with a lie, so their statements become more impersonal. Also, not using constrictions (words like didn't, can't etc) and saying the whole thing (did not, cannot etc) is a bad sign ...
"I DID NOT have sexual relations with THAT WOMAN"
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